Your date will remember this
What is the number one thing your date will remember about you?
The truth is when your date goes home, they probably won’t remember everything you said, exactly what you wore, or exactly which jokes you told, but they WILL remember precisely how you made them feel.
In the words of the great Maya Angelou:
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Your date will go home with emotions sparked in them and the overall ‘headline’ feelings the whole experience with you evoked.
When we’re talking about dates and feelings, we’re really talking about chemistry, and chemistry comes from positive feelings being sparked between two people.
So, what are some examples of how we like to FEEL in our romantic lives and particularly on those early dates with someone new?
If a man walks away from his first date thinking these things, you’ve definitely made quite the impression:
I had FUN with her
If a man walks away from your date feeling like it was playful and it evoked a sense of fun, he’ll feel great.
Men love women who know how to enjoy themselves. It’s that simple. Think about it logically, he’s not looking for a business partner, he’s looking for a LIFE partner and what does he want his life to be? ENJOYABLE.
Being warm, playful and friendly can spark the kind of feelings in him that tells him he’s on the right track to finding someone he can imagine himself enjoying the good life with.
You can read more about this here
I think she’s interested in me
It is a turn-on for a man to feel that HE’S managed to spark interest from his date. This sense of encouragement can make him feel more masculine and reassured that he is directing HIS interest in the right place.
One small word of warning here. There is a difference between showing interest and coming across like a foregone conclusion. The latter is not attractive. Try to pace your interest with how well you’re getting to know him.
If you can help evoke these feelings in a woman, you’re off to a VERY strong start:
I felt special
No woman EVER wants to feel like she’s one of the masses. Even if logically she knows this isn’t your first date this year (or even this week), she doesn’t want to feel that way.
This doesn’t mean you have to shower her with compliments (in fact, this will very likely have the opposite to the desired effect). You can make her feel special simply by being present (not distracted by anything or anyone else) and by showing genuine interest in her and curiosity to understand her and her world more.
I just felt so feminine around him
Just as much as he often wants to feel masculine, she wants to feel feminine. If a woman walks away feeling really connected to her feminine energy she will be feeling all the good feels.
Making a woman feel this way is often less about what you SAY and much more about body language. For example, really engaging with her and making strong eye contact while she’s talking. Oh, and a dose of chivalry doesn’t go astray either! Open that door for her, be attentive and resist at all cost the urge to check out any other women while you’re on the date with her.
© My Wingwoman 2018
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